I went to a bridal shower this weekend. I was in a room full of women, food, beautiful decorations, and anticipation so, yeah, I was happy!
There’s just something so unique and special about showers isn’t there? Women do big events in life well. Whether you’re getting married, having a baby, moving away, or moving in, we just know how to press in and do it together. We see those milestones coming from a mile away and the first thing that we think to do is to get all the girls together, generations at a time, and have them bring blessings with them.
We bring gifts and we write down advice. We share food and we share life and all of it kind of surrounds the woman that’s embarking on this new chapter in her life like a coat. A really cute, beautiful, expensive, meaningful coat, that keeps her safe and warm and reminds her that she is doing this with the support of her tribe.
There are all of the traditions too. The bouquet for the wedding rehearsal made out of the bows from the bridal shower gifts, the lining of the baby dresser drawers with wrapping paper from the baby shower, the counting how many ribbons are broken to guess how many children the bride to be will have and on and on it goes. All of it, all of it, makes me a little teary eyed.
I well up thinking about it because I just think that there’s something so very moving about a bride practicing her walk down the aisle with a bouquet full of reminders that she is loved and supported and prayed for and wished well. I think the idea of a woman, heavily pregnant with hopes and fears and a baby, tucking teeny tiny clothes away on top of wrapping paper that was touched and trimmed by the hands of those that love her, those that will hold and love her baby, is so special.
It’s special because it proves that life is better when we aren’t doing it alone. Actually, it’s not only better, it’s beautiful.
“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 ESV
I love this verse in Ecclesiastes because it’s clear about the benefit and necessity of friendship. You see, life will come. It will come gently at times with joy and excitement ushering it in. Those are the times that we throw showers for. But it will also come hard and fast and unexpectedly too and in all of it, friends are needed.
We need them to celebrate with us when things are great and to hold us when things are bad.
“Rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep.” Romans 12:15 NIV
We need them to “toil” with us as Ecclesiastes talks about, as we raise our kids, invest in our marriages, build our careers, or traverse through the storms of life. We need them because on our own, the return is minimal but with friends, the return will be good.
So, in view of these things, of supporting and loving and working alongside each other as friends in life, I thought I would put together a little list of a few blessings from scripture that you can pray over your friends. These are for the good times and bad. The “shower” moments and the terrible moments. Find one of these scriptures and pray them over the people in your life and situations they’re walking through. Write it down for them and send it on some pretty stationary or in an email. Let it sink in and bless them. It’ll be as good as any gift at a bridal shower!
“May he grant your heart’s desires and make all your plans succeed. May we shout for joy when we hear of your victory and raise a victory banner in the name of our God. May the Lord answer all your prayers.” Psalm 20:4-5 NLT
“Mercy, peace, and love be yours in abundance” Jude 1:2 NIV
“Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well.” 3 John 1:2 NIV
“Blessed are you among women and blessed is the child you will bear!” Luke 1:42 NIV
“Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man.” Prov. 3:3-4 NIV
“May there be peace within your walls and security within your citadels.” Psalm 122:7 NIV
“Out of His fullness we have all received grace in place of grace already given.” John 1: 16 NIV
“Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:7 NLT
“I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being.” Ephesians 3: 16 NIV