A Letter to My Daughter About Her Self-Worth


Dear Charlotte,

Right now you lay up in your bed sleeping peacefully as I think about the past two and a half years you’ve blessed me with. I still remember the day I found out I was pregnant with you, I cried and cried so thankful and excited for the life we would have together. Each morning as you grew in my belly I prayed over you, for your protection, but mostly for your future and who you would become. The moment you entered this world I remember saying how beautiful you were, I couldn’t take my eyes off you, I was instantly and overwhelmingly in love with you. As you physically grew so did your personality, your emotions, and your mind. I am daily taken back by how insanely smart, kind, loving, joyful, hilarious, beautiful, and sweet. I know that as you grow older you will become more aware, aware of yourself, the world, the people in the world and how they look at you. What I wish I could give you is the gift of being able to see yourself through my eyes every day. I don’t want you to ever think less of what I described you as, but I know someday you will. When those days come there are some things I want you to forever remember…

Picture of Me

1. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. When you were created in my womb, God had a specific design and plan for your life. A life that is full of joy, fulfillment, and beauty. You are here on purpose, for a purpose. Know that the plans God has for your life are way more than what you could ever think for yourself, be ready for an amazing journey!

“The Lord directs the steps of the Godly. He delights in every detail of their lives” Psalm 37:23

2. You are loved by so many people that all want to support you and see you reach your greatest potential. Know that you are never alone, even if life can sometimes seem lonely.

3. You are beautiful on the inside and out. This world will want you to believe that outward beauty is what women should strive for. I don’t agree, I think beauty comes from within. Caring for people, having a gentle spirit, being respectful, possessing confidence, and loving well are all things that make you beautiful. Even though you are outwardly beautiful focus on the inside more and that brings outward beauty.
IMG_1851-14. You are strong and much stronger than you may believe. Don’t give up and don’t give in! You truly can do whatever you set your mind to accomplish, so dream big baby girl.

5. You are so smart. You amaze me by the things you say and do. Continue to stick with your love for reading and learning, this will bring great things your way.

6. Be willing to give yourself grace and plenty of it at times. You will stumble, you will fall, but always get back up. Know that mistakes and wrong turns can bring a beautiful outcome IMG_6650-e1455656074841when looked at with grace. I wish I had been nicer to myself through the mistakes of my life, but you have the chance to do well in this from the beginning. Be loving towards yourself. Charlie girl, if there are days when you feel “less than” remember these things I’ve told you, for they are all true. I pray you find your self-worth through these things and not what society thinks is worthy.
Thank you for making me a mama and allowing me to (hopefully) teach you how to navigate this sometimes scary world.


About the Author

1 year anniversary - CopyJENNIFER ERICKSON

My name is Jennifer Erickson and I’m the blogger behind The Happy Mama Life!  I live in a small town outside Denver with my husband of 8 years, our 2 1/2 year old toddler Charlotte and our 9 year old rescue pup Maverick! I am a stay at home mom that loves Jesus, loves to make healthy recipes, fun crafts and exercise!

  • Emily

    I love this so much. I, as well as so many mommies out there, can so relate to that overwhelming love at first sight.

    • http://alyssamartinphoto.com Alyssa Martin

      Hi Emily, I’m glad this post resonated with you. Thank you for reading!

  • Danielle Glye

    This is such a sweet and meaningful post out there. I am not a mom but I loved reading this and know your daughter will love to read it years from now. Great post!

    • http://alyssamartinphoto.com Alyssa Martin

      Hi Danielle, thank you for your response. I myself am not a mom either, but I know this post will mean a lot to Jennifer’s daughter years down the road. Thanks for reading!

  • Clarissa Silva

    This is such a great idea and lovely heart warming post! Thanks for sharing!

    • http://alyssamartinphoto.com Alyssa Martin

      Thank you for reading, Clarissa!

  • Lingering Lust

    Oh I love this! Im not a mom myself, but i know how crazy I am for my baby niece who when I’m with I feel is my own. It is an amazing feeling to be so in love with someone so quickly and wish them nothing but the best.

    • http://alyssamartinphoto.com Alyssa Martin

      Hi there, thanks for your response. I am not a mom yet either, but like you, I can’t imagine loving a little one more than my nieces and nephews!

  • http://www.eaglesoaringhigher.com/ Jonathan Key

    What a beautiful, heartfelt post by Charlotte’s mom! Does she have a blog too? As a Dad I too can relate to the overwhelming feeling of love at first site. I was the first to hold my son due to some complications. I knew that life would never be the same. I’m sharing this on Facebook. It’s such a great reminder to look at ourselves in through God’s eyes to see the love He has for us.

  • http://paisleyandkrish.com Paisley & Krish

    I can relate to you so much, I have a 7 year old and there are so many things I want to tell her. Loved this post!


    • http://alyssamartinphoto.com Alyssa Martin

      Hi Paisley, thanks for your response. I’m glad this post resonated with you. Thanks for reading!