My husband and I have quite the “whirlwind romance” story. We met in October 2014, were engaged in April 2015, and married three months later in July 2015. In case you need a calculation, that’s dating to marriage in nine months. This past month, we celebrated six months of marriage. I wouldn’t change a thing about our story, and I am grateful every day that the Lord brought us together.
Let’s backtrack a bit. I’ll let you in on a little secret. Before I met my husband, I had had no other boyfriends. Zero. No kisses. Not even a peck. At twenty-six years old, I felt a bit like God had forgotten me. I spent a lot of time wondering when He was going to provide that man that I just knew He had promised to me. In high school, I was a bit of a nerd, just studying and pushing through to make it to college, where I was certain that I would meet the man of my dreams. In college, I had my eyes peeled and analyzed nearly every relationship with the opposite sex as I hoped for some “future potential.” After college, I still didn’t date very much and began to wonder if there was something seriously wrong with me. It seemed as though I always wanted what I could not have or what was not good for me.
Looking back, I can see how God’s hand was in every little detail of my life, even when I had begun to doubt He even remembered my existence. As I watched friend after friend embark upon marital happiness, He reminded me that He still provides for His children. As I got to know different male friends and went on a few awkward dates, He began to show me what I needed versus what I thought I wanted.
After praying and begging the Lord for a breakthrough for a couple years, I read a book called How to Get a Date Worth Keeping that completely changed the way I viewed dating and relationships. I had literally been waiting on God to just drop a man out of the sky instead of being proactive in seeking what I so desperately desired. A couple months after I read the book, I joined eHarmony, with much fear and trepidation. I had pretty high expectations, y’all. I remember buying a few new blouses and some new makeup in hopes that I would be able to wear them on all the dates I would be going on. Well, a few months went by, and still no one had asked me out on even one date.
Once again, I found myself doubting God’s provision and His ways. I also seriously wondered what the heck was wrong with me. I thought I had taken a chance, and there were no prospective suitors in my town, so where was this mystery man that I was sure He had promised to me? I had signed up for a six month subscription to the service with not even one date to speak of by month four.
But God was up to something, and I just didn’t know it yet. In October, I was matched with a man who lived in my town. I felt like I already knew everyone in town, so I wondered if this was just another dead end. I sent a wink and then hoped for the best. As it turns out, this man was new in town, and we began talking and writing back and forth. About a week after we started communicating online, he asked for my number. I later learned that while I had been on eHarmony for a few months, communicating with men literally all over the country and arriving at dead ends, he signed up and was matched with me on the first day. He called on a Monday night, we went on a Tuesday, and the rest is history.
Now here’s the crazy thing: this man, who is now my husband, not only had been living in the same town for a few months, but also attended the same church. Because the church easily has 1,000 attendees on a given Sunday and three services, our paths had never crossed. He was right under my nose. It is crazy to think about what God will do to bring you exactly what you need when you need it. I had no idea God would use an online dating service (that I, in my pride, once looked down upon) to bring me my husband.
I have no “helpful hints” or “secrets” to eHarmony. I spent so much time chasing the right formula that would get me the man I wanted. This fruitless chase just brought discontentment and frustration. If you’re currently single or waiting on the Lord to provide another felt need, just know this- He will provide all that you need in His way and in His timing so that He receives the most glory. Trying to understand His ways or manipulate circumstances is pointless. But surrender brings hope and a heart that is fully reliant upon His great grace.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6 (NASB)
Here is what I know: God is good. He is our Provider. He absolutely delights in giving good gifts to His children. There is nothing that I have done to deserve the good in my life. Every good and perfect gift is from Him, my Heavenly Father. So when I look back our crazy story, I just say “Wow, God. You did it. You. did. it.” All the glory is His.
“Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us, to Him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus to all generations forever and ever. Amen.” Ephesians 3:20-21 (NASB)
About the Author
Hey y’all! My name is Jessica Mathisen. I am a twenty-something newlywed living in Athens, Georgia. I work as a third grade teacher at a private Christ-centered school for inner-city kids. I love my Jesus, my husband, and my job. Oh, and my sweet little fur baby, Bailey. Most often I am found reading, writing, relaxing, or hanging out with friends and family. I love encouraging others to love Jesus right where they are.