Desire for Approval

Y’all. My baby boy turned 1 year old this past MONDAY! I can’t even believe time has flown by so quickly. Everywhere I go people tell me, “Don’t blink! Before you know it he will be driving, going to college, getting married, etc.” Ahhhh! I can’t even go there! On Saturday we had a party to celebrate his first year of life!


He perfectly timed that little finger and never even knew it! He was stingy with his smiles this day.


He also loved all the sugar he got to eat AND the balloons!


He also got tons of fun toys to play with! Love this face!

I had the perfect party scenario in my head. I had a vision…I know you women have visions too! You want everything to work out like it does in your head. Like a perfectly written Disney movie where the boy gets the girl, they sing magical songs, they ride off into the sunset, and everyone lives happily ever after! Unfortunately, things don’t always go quite as planned.

My perfect weekend didn’t exactly happen, but the Lord continually uses situations like these to remind me of my shortcomings…my incessant need to please everyone and my tendency to worship others (and myself), rather than the One who deserves ALL my worship.

I’ve always been extremely conscious of what people think of me. It goes hand in hand with my insecurities. I try to keep the peace and make everyone happy, oftentimes losing sight of what really matters. This weekend was about celebrating Liam and the beautiful year of life God’s given him, yet I was too focused on everything around me. Do you find losing focus is easy to do as well?

Losing sight of what really matters seems to trap each of us every now and then. We are on this earth to glorify Christ and make Him known, yet most of us are focused on our busy sections of the world, pleasing others, or just plain living for ourselves. We get enraptured in our selfishness without even realizing we’re drowning in it. Satan seems to be alarmingly sneaky that way. He distracts us, and before we know it, we’ve completely lost sight of Jesus. We’ve been sucked into a dark vortex of pride, narcissism, and selfishness. This, my friends, is not what Jesus has intended for our lives! I lost sight of Him throughout this whole weekend. I didn’t sit before Him in His Word. I hardly even prayed. I was so focused on everyone around me that I lost sight of Him. My own need for approval took over, and I worshipped myself.

How in the world do we combat this? I find that even in the midst of busyness, when I spend my daily time with Him, in His word, in prayer, my need for approval is a lot closer to nonexistent than it previously was. I’ve been reminded this weekend that I can choose who is god over my life. Am I going to worship CHRIST or am I going to worship man? I cannot do both. Galatians 1:10 says,

“For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

Ouch! When you are serving Christ, naturally you serve others. However, when you care so much about other people’s approval and they become more important than Jesus, that’s when you have a major problem. Praise Jesus for grace and forgiveness. Our focus should never be on this world, and we should take heed to Colossians 3:23…

”Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men.”

We MUST set our eyes on Jesus! Otherwise, we crazy women who juggle thousands of things just might go CRAZY!


It’s almost like he’s saying “Don’t worry, mommy…BE HAPPY!”

Who’s with me? Do you ever feel the need to please everyone around you that it distracts you from living your life for Christ? How do YOU fight this?


  • Shelley

    I feel like this was written for me this morning! This past year for me has put in me in many situations where I so badly want to fit in and gain the approval of those around me, but at what cost? Of gaining their approval and walking away from what matters to me? I’ve had to maintain the memory of these verses and cling to the Lord through this period in my life, while praying for the Lord to place Godly, Christian friends in my life. It’s a time of testing, but I love that we as his children we are refined by the fire (1 Peter 1:7) and he has called us to live lives differently than those of the world. Thanks for your words this morning.

    • Andi Clem

      Shelly- it is so hard isn’t it?! I’ve always sought after other people’s approval. That verse hit me hard… I don’t want to seek approval of men but of Christ! It’s hard but through prayer and accountability, we can do it! Thank you for being so honest with us. It’s not always easy being vulnerable! I just prayed for you! Thank you for being part of our community!